Hello everyone. This blog post, if you already haven’t read, is my view of the new irksome obsession many teenage girls are raving about. If you are a teenage girl and you do not have the slightest idea of what a thigh gap is, I applaud you with a great appreciation for your simple desire to be yourself or not following the crowd. However, many girls are now coveting this new-fashioned idée fixe, resorting to dieting, weight loss methods or even starvation in order to achieve this dangerous compulsion that has surfaced in their minds.

‘Well-behaved women seldom make history.’ -Marilyn Monroe

Fifty-three years after Monroe’s demise, she still is respected and envied for her rare beauty. With her classic luscious red lips, sleek bleach blonde hair and those innocent blue eyes of hers that captivated all who looked upon her. Yet, she a woman who with such fierce reputation uttered wise words that should be remembered today because, they apply to all women. Additionally, Marilyn Monroe never shared in the thigh gap frenzy, and yet her ‘so-called fans’ glorify her remarkable beauty, but behind the scenes they work towards gaining a thigh gap. I myself am not claiming that all girls who claim to have a thigh gap or diligently work towards one are the antithesis of well-behaved. I am clearly applauding the women who know that despite how they may appear, they are beautiful in their eyes.

Women, you are your harshest critics and whether or not you’ve heard it before, you cannot deny that at a point in your life you may have been displeased with what was glaring back at you through a mirror. I myself admit that I have been displeased with myself. Some of us wish to have longer lashes, bigger eyes, clear skin, full lips, blue eyes, green eyes, black hair, blonde hair, we want our bodies to be taller, curvy, shorter or skinny. There are so many aspirations we are setting for ourselves that by the time the list is over, you can no longer see yourself under the ocean of edits. This is dangerous, what will we gain if we please others but are plagued with misery and despair when we continue to desire our perception of the ‘impossible perfect body’?

When you become the person that you’ve wanted to become, are you willing to change everything about yourself even your personality, as uncomfortable as it may be, just so people like you?

I am a very shy person, and I cannot imagine myself being someone who is sociable, neighboured by lots of girls or who is someone willing to cake herself up with pounds of makeup, because she knows there’s no going out the door without it.
So what’s to blame? Media? Family? Friends? Or you? Are you the one to blame? Couldn’t you cope under the stress? Under all of the exposure of flawless models, makeup advertisements, and your own reflection as you stared into the mirror? Personally, I think that we can blame no-one apart from ourselves, as harsh as it is. We always have a choice, not to follow the crowd, and even if you’re alone, you need to find strength. If we don’t encourage the fact that we shouldn’t find inner strength, then we will only put ourselves in a difficult, helpless situation when we are alone.

This blog post has been difficult to write, so excuse my delay. But this topic is sensitive and delicate, and I wish that no one has interpreted the fundamental message in the wrong way, for I had no intention for conveying a message that was harsh and upsetting to my viewers.

In truth, thigh gaps are initially a passing trend and you will only find yourself reminiscing in wonder, how you ever wanted one, a few years from now. I will always say to everyone to be pleased with yourselves, and never let anyone influence you to change, unless it is by some logical reason, for the better of your wellbeing and others.


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